Not the perfect wife or mom

Ever have one of those days when you just feel like you can do nothing right. I have had alot of those days alot lately.  My husband and I work opposite shifts, which makes life so much harder.  I know I get grumpy and take out my frustration on them. I do not mean to but I hold in so much sometimes I just cant take any more and lose it. I am not proud of that or think it is a good thing. I know there is a lot of people like me out there.  Or I think there is. I work 40 hrs a week, take my daughter to karate 3 nights a week and pick her up another night from her youth group.  I also cook dinner every night, then dishes, laundry, try to keep house picked up and try to get a workout in also. I have been working on getting myself back in shape and healthy since Mid May. I have had to make some major changes in my eating and exercise habits.  I have lost 40 lbs and still have another 60 to go. I am doing this the old fashion way eating better and daily exercise. No miracle diet or anything because I have to learn to live my life without quick fixes. We lead by example and I want to be a good example to my daughter as she is 12 and I dont want her to grow up with these weight issues.  I feel I have let my daughter and husband down by getting so unhealthy and overweight.  I quit smoking in February 2013 and boy that was hard. I lost my Dad unexpectedly in 2009, all that stress added up and the weight began to pile on. My step daughter and I have had a rocky relationship the last few years. I am a strong very opinionated woman and I don't sugar coat things, I tell it like it is and I will never betray my family or friends.  This has caused problems for me with family and friends through the years, but how can I change something I don't feel is a flaw. Being strong is mistaken as being a bitxx . Telling the truth is mistaken as being mean. Wouldn't you want the truth rather then someone telling you lies and being fake. Nothing I hate more then liars and fake people.  I battle my own demons daily to remain strong and keep moving forward.  I do not forgive easily or forget  the wrongs done to me. I choose to move forward and not look back. I battle with feelings of being a failure as a wife and mom wondering is that enough or was that good  enough, did I hurt their feelings with my honesty.  Did I tell them I love them enough today or hug them enough. Do they feel protected, loved, safe, secure, wanted, all this runs through my head every day.  I am far from a perfect mom or wife. I swear and yell and can be stubborn and short tempered but I am a work in progress.  I love my family and friends who don't judge me or make me feel like a bad person for just being the strong loud mouth woman I am. I may be flawed, but my heart is pure and the love I give is real......my favorite saying I have found along with... I am not mean I am honest.......